Issue 19 / Hot Sexting Etiquette Tips!

Hot Sexting Etiquette Tips!

Oct 14, 2015

Sexting is a fun way to stay connected with your lover and the following blog provides guidelines on how to enjoy the sexting experience in romantic relationships.

This is a really juicy one for those of us that have our noses glued to our phones and rely on our phones to keep our relationships alive. Texting is the modern way to connect with people and is a form of communication that we have to embrace if we are to move with the times.

What About Sexting?

Is it a good or bad thing? This is a common question from those who are newly dating and from those who are in committed relationships. My advice is different for both. When you are newly dating with the expectation of a meaningful and long-term relationship, it is wise to stay away from sexting during those early months. This will ensure that you are truly getting to know each other before dabbling in sexting and getting your hormones and libido worked up. For those in long-term relationships, I say go for it! Explore the sexting world and use it as an additional way to get intimate with your partner.

The South Asian culture isn’t one to embrace this behavior so I advise that you keep sexting experiences private with your partner. Sexting is not a bad thing when used in the right way and context. A recent study, Reframing Sexting as a Positive Relationship Behavior, by Emily Stasko and Pamela Geller found that the use of sexting increases sexual satisfaction between partners.  

There are some Dos and Don’ts, however, when it comes to sexting so you don’t turn your partner off and can really enjoy driving him or her wild with desire. The following guidelines will help you enjoy the sexting experience without the pitfalls.

1. Begin With Flirting

It is important to know if the other person wants to play before you start texting so start with some flirting and fun pictures. If newly dating keep things light and flirtatious until a few months of dating has passed and you know you are with the real deal, a trusting a meaningful connection that is. Then you can put yourself out there a little and test the waters to see if your partner wants to play. For those of you in long-term relationships, start talking about things you wish you could do when you see each other. Yes this is what I mean by go for it. Life is too short and if you know you are with one you love, just enjoy the luxury of sexting freely in your committed relationship.

2. Keep it Real

As much as sexting plays on fantasy, keep those fantasies realistic so when you are with your lover you have managed expectations in the bedroom. In addition, it is more fun when you have enticed your lover so you can actually follow through on your sexting fantasies in person. Sexting is ideal when you are unable to see your lover that very instant but want to feel sexually connected. So have fun with it and keep the anticipation and excitement so you can enjoy the fantasies in person.

3. Play on Words

Get used to using words to reel your partner in for some fun talk. Sometimes a few words with the right emoticons can set your partner off for a fun sexting conversation where imagination can then take it to a whole new level. Other times you can be descriptive about what you want and how you want to enjoy intimacy with your partner. Details are everything so close your eyes and imagine before you start texting. Take it slow and be descriptive. Put those english and grammar classes to some good use.


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4. Timing is Everything

You don’t need to respond so fast to every sext. Sometimes take a break and keep your partner waiting before you send your next sext. Timing your sexting can work to your benefit as it keeps both of you wanting more. Holding off too long can also be annoying and aggravating so really keep your intentions true and use timing as a way for both of you to play and enjoy each other.

5. Tasteful Pictures

I am not a big believer in sending nude pictures over the phone. I think showing skin is fine but keep it tasteful. There is a perception by many men that sending nude pictures is a turn on for women. Quite the contrary, women fall for the words and from a woman’s perspective, pictures are really best when the man is dressed up making the woman want to rip his clothes off. On the flip side, men are very visual beings so ladies keep those pictures sexy but tasteful. Nude pictures are not required but you can be risqué. The key here is to have fun while leaving something to the imagination.

What do you think of the sexting guidelines above? Would you add anything to the list? Feel free to share in the comments section below.

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Yvonne Sinniah


Yvonne Sinniah (@YvonneSinniah) is a Relations Advisor and inspirational speaker focusing on helping individuals achieve success in personal and professional environments.  focusing on helping individuals achieve success in personal and professional environments.  She is on a mission to meet a nee...


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